Being Secure in Public

Being a gay couple in the west does not guarantee we will be safe from harassment in public. There are no hard and fast rules for how to be safe in public. Every rubberman must rely on his own judgement based on his experience and abilities. However, we can tell you what has worked for us. First and foremost, we rely on common sense. We think and plan ahead about where we are going, what we are doing, and what will be regarded as appropriate. We also try to be prepared for any contingency.


Although we like to wear a range of rubber gear when we go out, even rubber clothing should be appropriate to the circumstances. In short, we don’t wear harnesses and hip boots to the opera, or codpiece catsuits to the Galleria. Rednecks in pickups are something to avoid. All your rubber must be Street Legal. The definition of street legal will vary by location, of course. Know the law, and how it can hurt and help you. I hope to post more on this issue as I learn more. Know your area before you visit in rubber, if possible.

If Confronted
Obviously, everyone must rely on his/her own wits whenever confronted. When in an uncertain public situation, we do our best to Show No Fear. Being 6’4″ helps, but in one case only provoked a challenge. We never linger any longer than absolutely necessary. We also try to avoid appearing or responding rashly. But neither do we wish to respond timidly. In general we avoid large groups of people on the street, especially if achohol is involved.


If going by car, it is best to have a set of street clothes in case you have to change a flat. We ALWAYS fuel up before the trip. Even gasoline fumes could be harmful to rubber.
Although we have riden the subways in Europe in rubber, we usually take taxis if a car in unavailable. Most clubs or theaters will call a cab for you.
If travelling by air, be aware of security measures. A man in a rubber suit could be regarded as a security risk. If in doubt about any of your gear (gasmasks, for example), put it in checked baggage.